Dear Love Life ICU Family,
Here’s a quick guide to sorting out your feels. This is the exact step-by-step guide I used in the past when evaluating the pros and cons of my relationship. I hope you find it useful! Please share, comment, etc…
Breaking up with a partner is hard enough as it is, but the time you spend silently agonizing over whether you should pull the plug can be The Worst. Shouldn’t realizing you no longer want to date someone be the most obvious thing in the world? Why is it so impossible to know for sure?!
WHY ARE YOU LIKE THIS???
Turns out, it’s normal to be indecisive about breaking up when you can’t quite figure out if the problem is the relationship or Y-O-U.
Here’s how to tell the difference, based on your biggest complaints:
1. YOU FEEL STUCK OR BORED IN THE RELATIONSHIP.
BREAK UP IF…
You feel unsatisfied regardless of the cool things you do together. If you and your partner have tried BYOB painting, rock-climbing, and weekend trips, and you still catch yourself disengaging from him or her when you’re together, it might be a sign to move on — particularly if you imagine how your lifestyle would be different without your partner, and the vision is appealing, according to Dr. Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D., chair and professor of counseling and counselor education at Northern Illinois University. Think flying solo would make your social life superior, or help you enjoy your day-to-day more? A fresh start with a new partner could help you live the life you want.